- A Kenyan mother of three discovered that her husband of four years is gay, leaving her heartbroken and overwhelmed
- She recalled her husband’s chilling response after confronting him about the issue and informing his parents
- The frustrated woman said she felt trapped in the marriage and explained why leaving it was not an option
A mother of three is heartbroken after discovering that her beloved husband, whom she married four years ago, is gay.
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Carolyne (not her real name) took to social media seeking advice on how to handle the situation. She noted that her youngest child is just six months old and that she has been struggling with postpartum depression.
When did the woman discover her husband was gay?
The trained secondary school teacher said she realised her husband was gay at a time when she was already fighting for her mental health, leaving her feeling overwhelmed.
She approached her parents-in-law about the issue, but no steps had been taken to address the matter.
Carolyne expressed worries about leaving the marriage, particularly concerning the paternity and care of her other two children.
“My concern and worry is that I have come to realise my husband of four years is gay! How should I handle this? Should I involve my parents? My fear is that if I step out, this will be baby daddy number three. I feel frustrated,” she said.
Moreover, the distressed woman noted that when she confronted her husband, he did not deny the revelation and instead threatened to harm himself.
She lamented feeling trapped in the marriage, as her husband insisted she only work in schools near his village.
“I am drained mentally. I got postpartum depression when I gave birth, and that’s when I realised. I need help,” she shared.
Kenyans advise woman with gay husband
Social media users offered guidance, urging her to prioritise her peace of mind, consider leaving, and focus on self-care.
Cynthia Ochieng:
“Practising gayism is a personal decision. Involving parents or in-laws might not work. Most men turn to gayism because of vulnerability. He wants to provide for you and the family, as jobs are scarce in Kenya. Reasons differ for each person. Help him with self-realisation, boost his self-esteem, and maintain confidentiality. He may not want you to work because he fears the information might be shared. Above all, PRAY. May you find solace in the Lord.”
Trizer Ogingo:
“My dear, marriage is not for everyone. Don’t be ashamed to leave. Let society judge you, but most importantly, you will have saved yourself a lot. Walk away for your peace of mind.”
Everlyne Adhiambo:
“As long as my peace of mind is at stake, even if it means finding another partner, it’s fine. You’re not breaking any of the Ten Commandments.”
Been Refined:
“Same-gender attraction is not something learned. It is usually present from childhood. Prayer cannot make it go away, though one can choose to abstain and remain chaste. Society often misjudges gays as effeminate or as child molesters, but it’s far more complex than that.”
How did Nairobi woman discover her husband is gay?
In other news, TUKO.co.ke reported that Monica Wambui Kamau had long suspected her husband was gay but had no proof of her suspicions.
However, she grew concerned about the unusual closeness between him and one of his male friends and decided to keep a close eye on them.
One night, she walked in on the two friends getting cosy in her living room, believing she had gone to bed.
Source: TUKO.co.ke
